HW 21 - Expert #1

--Men are less likely to receive medical attention.

--Last years of marriage were the best

--“honeymoon from death”

--Acceptance instead of numbness sadness

Honeymoon from death:

The fact was brought up by our guest speaker that her husband had a honeymoon from death. This means that he felt better for a while. After a while his health plummeted. I just thought about how terrible that aspect of it must have felt. When my great grandfather was dyeing of old age, when i was about 9, I remember my grandmother calling and saying, “He is better, I think I am going to take him to see you this summer!” then all of her hope for her father rapidly withered away with in 2 days. He began to turn yellow. Then with in 12 hours he died. The emotional agony of the “honeymoon from death” can be blamed on our desire for miraculous recovery portrayed in movies. The guest speaker showed more wisdom on the topic. She was said she was never under the impression that her husband was going to live. She saved her self from the emotional trauma.

The guest speaker discussed how the last months of her marriage were the best. She said how she had never been able to spend that much time with him. That goes along with the idea “you don’t know what you have until it is gone” So to an extent she was lucky that she knew she would not have him ahead of time. When there relationship is is compared to many other grumpy old people who hate each other. Although the guest speakers family spent less time together they got to enjoy their last few months together.